While I was walking with my girlfriend this morning I realized how much I "DO" for my boys. I am a "DO"er... that is so true. I see something that should get done- and do it. I dont think "who else should do it" or "the boys could do this".... I just do it. There is less grumbles, less arguing, and less struggles that way.
we had chores, once, for the boys ( particularly the older boy) but the way I had it put together- it just got to be to hard to follow through on. Not to mention, I just started doing the chores for them... because, I DO, remember.
The chores were not things they did for allowance, but they did have to do their chores to earn the extras that they could do for allowance. Here I am, as a parent, trying to teach my child to be responsible~ but then micro manage and inhibit them.
today.... things change.
today... O is not going to like my friend very much.
today..... the boys now have chores.
This will not only help in keeping our house simple... but it allows the boys to see what needs to happen to make this house work. I am not asking a lot from them, but I am asking them to help, and to be a part of the family in this way. Family times are not always happy go lucky, games, crafts, fun, and outings... they are also, helping, caring, pitching in, and carrying some of the load.
so wish me luck... because this afternoon....
things are changing~
and I sure hope~ the change will be received.
maybe my house will start to look like this~ look at those smiles as the kids work.... one can dream, right?